Today is our 9th wedding anniversary. I am back home now and it is hard to be apart on this day but I was able to talk with Tom. A stunning bouquet of our wedding flowers arrived and as usual I was reduced to tears. How does he do it? Today his trache was capped and so while Wens and Ant were visiting they called me as a surprise.
Its also 111 days since Tom was admitted into Milpark Hospital ICU. Tom has a freaky relationship with the number 111 so today must mean something in the scheme of things. He could drop a book and it would be open on page 111, he might look at his watch and it would be 1:11, the alarm bells of the man opposite him in hospital would go off – heart rate 111, the list goes on. Freaky and annoying I found it! I was hoping it to be the day he gets moved to Muelmed Hospital in Pretoria which has a dynamic centre for Spinal Injuries. I don’t think it will be so today.
When the girls and I left Joburg on Monday night we were all very sad. Tom had been really low in spirit a few days before and it was crushing to see. His frontal lobe of his right injured lung collapsed again on Friday and he was taken off the trache mask and put back on the wall cpap to keep the pressure in his lungs constant and hopefully reinflate it. It worked. This is a huge relief as the last time this happened he was put back onto the ventilator. And so up till now this is the longest time he has breathed without the ventilator but is still being assisted by the cpap machine. Today it seems they have capped his trache which essentially means he is breathing entirely on his own. His stats (particulary oxygen saturation levels) are now important and will be watched closely.
I spoke with all of Tom’s doctors while I was there, its very difficult to get any time at all with them so it was a lucky break, all being at Tom’s bedside so he was part of the conversations. They all indicated he should be ready to move to the next phase of his recovery as the weaning process was progressing forward. From my experience it is not a wise thing to hold on to news like this as twice before this news has been dashed and the process started all over again. But I have a warm feeling in my stomach and I need to believe perhaps that “Break” I begged for, might have arrived. Mike, Nick and Warren are working extremely hard behind the scenes at making this move happen. The next phase should at least be clear in a few days.
Deep sure breaths everyone, they are paying off. They are lightening this heavy heavy load. They really are.
















#1 by Steve and Jenny Maine at August 26th, 2009
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Dear Sal,
Thinking of you all so much, you are always in our thoughts and prayers.
lots of love
Jenny and Steve (Dubai)
#2 by Shelley Manolios Ottino at August 26th, 2009
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Dear Sally and Tom – happy anniversary, although you are not together today, you know that we are all thinking of you both and sending you warm wishes and deep breaths from around the world – mine come from Texas. Keep strong and thanks for all the news.
#3 by Paul and Leanne Van Hoof at August 26th, 2009
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Dear Sally and Tom – happy 9th anniversary to you both. So sorry you couldn’t be together on your special day, so bottoms up to the many more in your future together! Deep breaths and positive thoughts always.
Paul and Leanne
x
#4 by Gay & Peter Bourhill at August 26th, 2009
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Dear Tom & Sal. Wishing you both very many more happy anniversaries. With our love, Gay Peter Seb Freda Jack Joseph Char Karl & Marcus
#5 by Marc & Helen at August 26th, 2009
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Hi Tom and Sal – happy anniversary for yesterday. Although you may have been apart physically I am sure after spending a few weeks there you are as close as ever spiritually. It does not suprise me that you got your flowers – such is the MAN.The roller coaster ride does continue and I to pray that this is the “Break” you so need. We contiue to Breath every day for Tom and I am driven by the thought that every day I may be the first person breathing for Tom and need to get off to a good start.
We love the photos – such a beautiful beautiful family.
#6 by Adam and Karin at August 27th, 2009
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Dearest Sal and Tom! Happy happy happy happier anniversary! We know that this must be a tough one but the love that you share and show each other, and radiate out to all who know you, are your phenominal rock. More power, more strength, and deep, deep breaths of support to you both and to your girls. Love from us.
#7 by Brett at August 27th, 2009
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Hi Sal and Tom . First off …..nine years , WOW !
Am so happy to hear of the BIG step you took Tom . What a victory in not having to go back on the vent !!!!! Hopefully third time lucky. The world is breathing for you……..keep going.
Brett
#8 by Alison at August 27th, 2009
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Happy Anniversary my special friends. This 111 just keeps popping up!!!!
Love you both so much
#9 by Amanda Davies at August 27th, 2009
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Dearest Sal and Tom – Happy Anniversary for yesterday. And deep breaths and prayers for you both.
Love Mands x
#10 by Alan L at August 27th, 2009
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I managed to see Tom for about an hour yesterday. I resisted the urge to read poetry and chatted to Tom asking the various questions we WASPs are all raised to avoid. What i saw is someone who is focused and completely lucid, whilst retaining a dry sense of humour that made us friends in the first people. Frankly it is remarkable.
#11 by Vicki Penfold at August 27th, 2009
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Amazing guys! So many many congrats for your anniversary…111…I am sure it means that you have special angels sending you reminders that they are watching! Sending so many positives from Cape Town…your strength and spirit are an inspiration to all. LOTS of love. Vicki
#12 by Michelle Amyot at August 27th, 2009
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Happy anniversary – wonderful memories of that special day and the years since to hold onto. Tom’s romantic touch remains invincible! Thinking of you Sal and the girls back home and hope you are settled in with support of family and friends for the coming term. So glad Tom that you are making such great progress. As always, deep breaths being taken, positive energy sent and holding out that the move to Pretoria is sooner than we all expect. Stay strong, keep believing in yourselves and inspiring us. Love always. Michelle xxxx
#13 by Leandra at August 27th, 2009
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Wow on 9 years! Congrats! I am glad that He has spared you both to be able to make this 9-year mark.
Tom, I am really praying that this move to Meulmed happens soon. Keep breathing!
#14 by Errol and Tina at August 27th, 2009
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Happy Anniversary to you both. Thanks for the update Sal and so pleased to hear that Tom is progressing well. Hope when we are in Joburg at the end of September, that we will be visiting Tom at Meulmed. Sending lots of love to you both – Errol and Tina
#15 by Dave Wood at August 27th, 2009
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Happy anniversary Sal and Tom – your love for each other shines through on this site. Nice work on the flowers, Tom. Deep, deep breaths from a sunny Cape Town – you are in our thoughts constantly. Dave & Vics
#16 by Robs at August 27th, 2009
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Dearest Sal and Tom.
Happy Anniversary! One needs only remember your wedding day to know that your partnership was something very special.
I recall the song that opened your reception : “Celebrate good times”. I think that somewhere that was pivotal; that even the days that might seem the hardest, there can always be something to celebrate, no matter how small it might seem. I celebrate your togetherness. I celebrate your courage. I celebrate breath and voice. I celebrate the power of one (111).
Love you always. Robs x
#17 by Sue & Snow at August 27th, 2009
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Dear Sal & Tom
That special commitment you made to one another 9 years ago radiates in you both through every step you take, two such special people – love, congratulations and deep breaths coming from Rob & Sue
#18 by Peta-Jane and Craig Spong at August 27th, 2009
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Makorokoto Tom and Sal – I have such fond memories of your wedding day. We were so touched to be invited, thank you. A fantastic re-introduction for us to old Harare/Rhodes friends, post-UK. Craig was seated next to Kate (shame!) and I was next to Andrew (poor me, ha ha!), setting the scene for many years to come. I can clearly remember Gail saying “Craig is chatting away but I have no idea what he is saying”! Too funny.
Thinking of you all, and lots of love, always…
#19 by Lauren Reitz (Bersin) at August 28th, 2009
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still sending loads of love and strong, breathing wishes to you all. Great news about the impending move and we so hope that this is a big move in the right direction. Each and every day we think of you,
Lots of love,
Lol, Chris and Oli xxx
#20 by Wendy Greenway at August 31st, 2009
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Glad the flowers and the call provided a bit of happy on your anniversary, although a ‘happy anniversary’ is maybe a bit of a push right now! I recall a great day celebrating your anniversary 2 years ago at a seafood restaurant by the sea in Mozambique…happy times…and you have our promise, there will be more!
#21 by Gary Drewry at September 21st, 2011
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And this year the wedding is 11 year old. I hope Tom does not have a freaky relationship with the number 11. God bless you all.