Comments on: 363 days

By: Gay & Peter Bourhill

Gay & Peter Bourhill — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 20:24:27 +0000

Saturday 8th May was such a special day with you The Soper family. A wonderful idea, so many people and such fun. Thank you and love Gay & Peter

By: marie silverwood

marie silverwood — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 23:08:50 +0000

Hello Sal and Tom
Much love to you and your girls as you battle and win each day.
Marie (Magadza)

By: Val Chapman

Val Chapman — Mon, 24 May 2010 06:54:52 +0000

Dear Sal and Tom
“Reflections on the 5th and the month of May”.
I don’t often add a comment, because Fi keeps in touch, but I do check the website regularly myself and every morning on waking I wonder what sort of a day you and the girls have had, as you are eight hours behind us. And I couldn’t help but think, on Mother’s Day recently, that there should be a Wives Day also, for people like yourself, Sal. We need to approach somebody high powered about that! After all, we have just celebrated International Nurses Day and that is only a part-time job, not 24/7!
A friend’s daughter had her long awaited first child on May 6th, which was also my late mother’s birthday. I reflected on how in a few split seconds, a moment hanging in time and space, a new life begins, or ends, and another life changes. And in those seconds countless other lives too are changed as a result. Who makes such decisions for us? This is where faith comes in.
You have both fought for and achieved so much in the past year and your courage and perseverance are an example to us all. We are so proud of you.
But it’s okay sometimes too, to say “why me, why us” and “I’m really, really tired right now”, because that makes you human and makes you so real to us. And then we can share some part of what you’re feeling with you. And you will know you are not alone. And that where there is love, laughter and joy will return.
With love
Val

By: Vivienne

Vivienne — Wed, 12 May 2010 15:47:01 +0000

Dear Sal,
Well it’s over – and I’m sure it was exhausting – but you all made it and it was a great day! Such a good idea to pass it with so many friends.

Your reflections on this site are so intimately described – we are all right there with you. I am in awe at how clearly you describe the huge contradictions, joys and frustrations that make up your life now. Very few could meet this challenge as you have.

Keep on writing your messages on the site in your head – I’m sure it helps you to keep going and by the time you actually sit to write, you have distilled them into pure wisdom for all of us to see. Nothing unfair about that.
Much love and courage to you both,
Vivienne

By: Tina Wood

Tina Wood — Wed, 12 May 2010 14:30:37 +0000

Dear Sal and Tom You have been in our thoughts so much this past week and wish we could have celebrated with you on Saturday. I believe it was a fabulous day. However, Errol and I both enjoyed spending quality time with you both on our recent visit to Harare. Tom what can I say, you are amazing and so inspirational – still that lovely smile and wonderful sense of humour. Lots of love to you all – Tina and Errol

By: Jacquie Gulliver

Jacquie Gulliver — Tue, 11 May 2010 12:11:14 +0000

Sal, I read this searingly honest piece of yours before I came to you house on Saturday.
It made me cry and it made me smile as you took me through the whole gut wrenching gamut of your lives.
Then I came to you house. You stopped flying around the kitchen for half a second, gave me a kiss, said hi and flew on!
Tom was in the garden demonstrating wheelchair tricks to an entranced little boy, Keira showed me her outfit and Erin was
up a tree.
I sat with Jane in the garden and thought how utterly normal it all was. And that’s the bit that really breaks me up.
What you’ve done with this situation is truly awesome Sal and you’re also one hell of a writer.
With so much love to you all,
Jax

By: Jules and Mike

Jules and Mike — Sat, 08 May 2010 23:09:55 +0000

Dearest Sal and Tom
Thinking of you guys and the anniversary of your accident and sending so much love with Tess when she comes next week.
Heaps of love and deep breaths,
Jules xxx

By: Caroline Mathai

Caroline Mathai — Fri, 07 May 2010 16:17:06 +0000

Dear Tom

What can i say…!!! I think every single person i meet from our class asks!! What happened to Tom!!!…Im glad to know your alive….Yes we did have a reunion last year and boy o boy, people dont change. The naughty ones were still naughty and guess what…Dickson Mathenge was a Policeman!!!….(now a detective)

I agree with Jean, you have a lovely wife who cherishes you dearly….God bless you Sally and be strong for Tom. He is a precious one. I’m glad your fighting with every breath in you as you have alot to live for. She shall all stand in the gap for you.

May blessing and may you receive the healing you deserve
Former Classmate
Caroline Mathai

By: Jean kinuthia

Jean kinuthia — Fri, 07 May 2010 13:02:55 +0000

Dear Tom,

I’m sorry to hear about your accident. It sounds like you have a great wife & children around you!

I saw Ray on facebook and asked about you, actually with the intention to get in touch to let you know about our next HHS class of ’85 reunion. We had our first one last Dec….yup after 24years!

I pray for you and your wife Sally. I read a years gone past, your strength sounds amazing. God comforts and heals….may that truly be yours.

Former class-mate,
Jean Kinuthia

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 06 May 2010 11:52:16 +0000

Dearest Sal, the 5th is over. You are amazing. Wish I could make the braai. I think of you all every day . All my love Kat