This is crap. I hate this. I’m sad. I’m bitter.
Tomorrow I might wake up feeling different but right now I HATE THIS.
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This is crap. I hate this. I’m sad. I’m bitter.
Tomorrow I might wake up feeling different but right now I HATE THIS.
#1 by Michelle Amyot at July 21st, 2010
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Have been thinking of you SO much this week. Wish there was a magic wand that could be waved for all of this to disappear. Words seem utterly inadequate so sending you my hope for perseverence, a measure of peace and a better tomorrow, and the one after that, and the next one …. M xxxx
#2 by Lyn Strydom at July 21st, 2010
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You are also normal …. human …. x
I have just spent the last couple of days with my grandparents. They are both well into their 90′s. Having lived good lives I now see them in their final days (?), weeks (?), months (?) – I have no idea how long they have but they are suffering. Their pain, confusion, anger, frustration, torment .. it is so evident. There is nothing I can do except be thankful for the life I have. A police officer lost his sight 17 days ago when his face was shot out by Roaul Moat – I listened to his moving interview this afternoon on the long drive home from my grandparents. He wont ever see again – but he is thankful that he had his sight and can remember a sunset. Tonight Tom, as the sun sets… please look into the colours … savour that sunset. Remember, some people cannot see it. And remember too that you have friends around the globe who think about you, breath for you and lift you up in their hearts and souls every day.
Much love – Lyn x
#3 by Peta-Jane Spong at July 21st, 2010
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Oh Sal – no words, such a heavy heart. Small consolation, but we will be with you as you wake tomorrow to face another new day. Big big hug my friend.
#4 by Patch at July 22nd, 2010
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Don’t hate, it hurts too much, it means you’re giving away your power to an emotion which you can’t control. Be sad, that’s ok, but you can’t live life with all the bad emotions forever, it will eat you up until you don’t remember how to smile, laugh, or be grateful. Because you still have a lot to be grateful for, your children, each other, the sun in the sky and food on your table. Live, love, smile. xxx
#5 by Bev Clark at July 22nd, 2010
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I’m just about to put this into our newsletter and thought you might like it too:
Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Don’t search for answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, some day in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answers.
- Rilke
#6 by Michelle Compton at July 23rd, 2010
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When the way ahead is uncertain and you must make difficult decisions, the univervse leads you step by step from the darkness of sorrow and confusion into His wonderful light… let us therefore not flee deeper into the darkness in our times of distress, but like the flower that grows in the darkness, turn our faces to the Light.
Strength to you friend xxx
#7 by leandra at July 23rd, 2010
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A tear, a hug, and a prayer that tomorrow will be better. Tomorrow wíll be better. When you’re down,the only way is up. Strongs
Leandra
#8 by Kat at July 24th, 2010
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you have every right to. its sh*t and totally unfair.
#9 by Vivienne at July 28th, 2010
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You’re right Sal – this life is crap, and recognising that reality is important. But this is the hand you’ve been dealt and it’s entirely up to you how you play it. You can let it pull you down and destroy you, or you can rise above it and learn every day a new way to find deeper satisfaction and joy, as we’ve seem you do again and again on this site. So accept this blip and go on.
I am full of admiration for the way you have coped so far, but I also wonder why you feel you have to deal with this whole new life alone. Some professional counseling or therapy will definitely help, even if you only pick it up when you’re feeling at your lowest ebb. In other countries, families in your situation would automatically be offered access to stress counseling or therapy –because they know it helps you to manage better. It’s not a sign of weakness and with the right counsellor, it isn’t even an intrusion into your privacy; it can help you find new resources of strength and meaning you may not even be aware you have.
And if that seems a step too far, then maybe you will think about doing a mindfulness training course next time one comes up – the girls might find it helpful too.
Much love,
Vivienne
#10 by Jules and Mike at July 29th, 2010
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Thinking of you so much, hope tomorrow is better. Loads of love xxx
#11 by Trish at July 29th, 2010
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Quite right Sal! This is a totally hateable situation for you. I was just thinking this morning how bad it is for you, so I’m not surprised it’s hitting in you the face at the moment. It is relentless. What a BUGGER!
Very much love. Trish
#12 by Val Chapman at August 3rd, 2010
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Dear Sal
I thought Vivienne in particular put it so well.
It is a hard road, but you are not doing it alone, you are doing it side by side with Tom and the girls and with the love and support of your family and friends and that is where you can draw strength. But don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s okay. And you will need it sometimes.
love and prayers
Val
#13 by Caroline Kilonzo at August 6th, 2010
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“You play the hand you’re dealt. I think the game’s worthwhile.” – C.S Lewis
Sal, whatever you feel, Tom feels and whatever Tom feels Sal feels. Whenever your marriage is tested, I pray for you that you will seek and find the love that transcends human suffering. May that love fill your hearts and home and move you past this pain and suffering and bring new hope for a bright future. I hope you will draw strength from this perfect love that loves through imperfections.
“Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained” – C.S Lewis
My prayer for you is that you find peace that suppasses understanding, unfailing love, the hope that renews strength, hope in a joyful future, patience while your new path to a bright future unfolds, a sorrounding of kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control.
One day you will be telling us about a wonderful new life that you could never have imagined.
#14 by Mbinya at August 7th, 2010
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One day you will be telling us about a wonderful new life that you could never have imagined, if you do not give up.
#15 by Heather Sadler at August 9th, 2010
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Lots of love and a great big hug…Heaths xxx