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By: Heather Sadler

Heather Sadler — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 20:28:51 +0000

Lots of love and a great big hug…Heaths xxx

By: Mbinya

Mbinya — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 12:16:32 +0000

One day you will be telling us about a wonderful new life that you could never have imagined, if you do not give up.

By: Caroline Kilonzo

Caroline Kilonzo — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 12:13:47 +0000

“You play the hand you’re dealt. I think the game’s worthwhile.” – C.S Lewis

Sal, whatever you feel, Tom feels and whatever Tom feels Sal feels. Whenever your marriage is tested, I pray for you that you will seek and find the love that transcends human suffering. May that love fill your hearts and home and move you past this pain and suffering and bring new hope for a bright future. I hope you will draw strength from this perfect love that loves through imperfections.

“Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained” – C.S Lewis

My prayer for you is that you find peace that suppasses understanding, unfailing love, the hope that renews strength, hope in a joyful future, patience while your new path to a bright future unfolds, a sorrounding of kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control.
One day you will be telling us about a wonderful new life that you could never have imagined.

By: Val Chapman

Val Chapman — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 12:49:56 +0000

Dear Sal
I thought Vivienne in particular put it so well.
It is a hard road, but you are not doing it alone, you are doing it side by side with Tom and the girls and with the love and support of your family and friends and that is where you can draw strength. But don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s okay. And you will need it sometimes.
love and prayers
Val

By: Trish

Trish — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 20:44:41 +0000

Quite right Sal! This is a totally hateable situation for you. I was just thinking this morning how bad it is for you, so I’m not surprised it’s hitting in you the face at the moment. It is relentless. What a BUGGER!
Very much love. Trish

By: Jules and Mike

Jules and Mike — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 09:27:43 +0000

Thinking of you so much, hope tomorrow is better. Loads of love xxx

By: Vivienne

Vivienne — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 08:34:15 +0000

You’re right Sal – this life is crap, and recognising that reality is important. But this is the hand you’ve been dealt and it’s entirely up to you how you play it. You can let it pull you down and destroy you, or you can rise above it and learn every day a new way to find deeper satisfaction and joy, as we’ve seem you do again and again on this site. So accept this blip and go on.

I am full of admiration for the way you have coped so far, but I also wonder why you feel you have to deal with this whole new life alone. Some professional counseling or therapy will definitely help, even if you only pick it up when you’re feeling at your lowest ebb. In other countries, families in your situation would automatically be offered access to stress counseling or therapy –because they know it helps you to manage better. It’s not a sign of weakness and with the right counsellor, it isn’t even an intrusion into your privacy; it can help you find new resources of strength and meaning you may not even be aware you have.
And if that seems a step too far, then maybe you will think about doing a mindfulness training course next time one comes up – the girls might find it helpful too.
Much love,
Vivienne

By: Kat

Kat — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 00:24:32 +0000

you have every right to. its sh*t and totally unfair.

By: leandra

leandra — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 21:56:40 +0000

A tear, a hug, and a prayer that tomorrow will be better. Tomorrow wíll be better. When you’re down,the only way is up. Strongs
Leandra

By: Michelle Compton

Michelle Compton — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 16:32:30 +0000

When the way ahead is uncertain and you must make difficult decisions, the univervse leads you step by step from the darkness of sorrow and confusion into His wonderful light… let us therefore not flee deeper into the darkness in our times of distress, but like the flower that grows in the darkness, turn our faces to the Light.

Strength to you friend xxx